Have you ever heard of "Triple P Parenting"?  It stands for the Power of Positive Parenting.   I have read much of the information on this model of parenting and was fortunate enough to be able to attend one of their workshops this evening.

It was a brief workshop that gave a basic overview of the principals behind the model, and I would like to share some of what I learned because I find this model to encompass exactly what I am striving to do. 

Triple P Parenting emphasizes setting a solid set of ground rules for all members of the family, and focuses on putting a positive spin on all areas of interaction with children.  Instead of zoning in on the exasperation and negative thinking that is so easy to fall into when the frustration level begins to climb, we should reamain calm and redirect activities if needed.  This will teach the child natural consequences in terms of not being able to continue an activity when exhibiting undesirable behaviors and allow for an opportunity to play or act more appropriately in a new situation.   These now desirable behaviors should then generate a shower of praise.  Being that we all enjoy being praised for what we are good at, children will be more likely to exhibit more desirable behaviors when presented with a similar situation in the future. 

I love this model of parenting because it focuses on the problem behavior, not a problem child.  I also like how it teaches the child about natural consequences without focusing on a punishment.  It allows the child to own the responsibility of their behavior.

My one concern at the end of the workshop was that many parents could find it difficult to begin incorporating this style of parenting if the home is currently lacking a solid set of expectations for both the parents and children.  It is easy to get lost in the chaos of life and giving in here and there can create havoc when trying to enforce new ground rules that you can stick to. 

The general rule of thumb seems to be to expect things to get worse before they get better.  Children will test their limits, but after a few weeks, there should be a noticeable decline in the number of infractions occurring.  This positive parenting technique will encourage the development of happy, well adjusted kids which is something we all strive for.